Gosh, I’ll start by saying how grateful I am to you. Not only very grateful, I love you. You amaze me all the time with your ability to remember stuff that would seem impossible to remember. You do snapshot comparisons, you contrast and you detect similarities between issues so incredibly quickly. A master at logic you are. That is your function and you do it so very very well. I bow before you.
You have kept me safe. You have gotten me positions and jobs because people have seen how well you work. You are such a very important part of me. But Brain, my dear Brain, I honestly must tell you are a bit of a speed freak. And because you sometimes go so fast you make mistakes. Not often, but sometimes when you make a mistake it’s a big one, sometimes with severe consequences.
But Brain, don’t feel bad. I’m not telling you this to upset you. We both know how important you are. I’m telling you this because I have some good news. The news is that you can take a break. You don’t have to work so hard all the time. You have a twin sister. Her name is Heart. She’s here to help you.
You and Heart both have the same intention. She also looks after me and I love her too just like I love you. She’s not as quick to react as you are but she is also very very good at her job. She is more sure of herself and more consistent than what you are, even though she allows you override her often – because she is not as insistent or loud as you are.
Heart is funny too, just like you are. After all, She’s your twin! She mirrors your personality but in a softer way. So don’t worry, she’ll keep us entertained with her antics too. Letting her take over is not a threat to us and don’t be deceived – she’s not a weak as she looks like.
Brain, tonight I can feel you are stressed. Again, the world has put lots of items on your to-do list plus there’s a lot of other things going on around us. But don’t worry Brain. I’m here tonight to tell you that it’s ok for you to let Heart take over for a while. It’s more than ok – because you my dear Brain actually are in need of a rest now. You’re going at 180km/hr now and our whole body is feeling it. We’re feeling a bit shaky and wobbly. You are exhausting us. Let’s give the wheel to your sister, Heart. You take a rest now.
Let’s not worry about sharing the power with her dear Brain. You won’t be completely gone, just in the background for now. And let’s trust her (Heart that is) especially when she says, it really doesn’t matter a darn stitch what is going on around outside of us. We know that you my dear Brain have been trying to control all the negative outside of us, to stop it from hurting us, but tonight she has a very valid point.
Screw the negative outside of us Brain. Hand the wheel over to her and let her stabilize us from the inside. Then no matter what negative is happening on the outside we can go on doing what we all, as whole want to, need to and are meant to do.
Take a rest. Let go. She’s got this.
the part where you said that my brain made a mistake really offended me. I know you said no offense but its 2018 man, you got to be careful what you say
Bronwyn Swartz said:
Thank you for your comment and for even reading my blog. Please understand my blog is my personal record – reflections more for myself than for anyone else. If someone sees value in anything I write then I’m happy. If not, then the truth is it’s my opinion and only mine. No one needs to agree.
This particular piece is one I personally love…. It signifies an important part of my transformation on my journey to be a better version of myself. It’s literally a conversation from me to me.
See I teach statistics for a living. And I’m very good at it according to my students and my university. The university gave me an excellence award this year. I am an analytical thinker and I get paid well to do research, analyze situations and to design strategies. I use logic and probabilities to predict outcomes and I teach students to do the same.
But using that same logically reasoning in my personal life led to disaster. I allowed my brain and logic to overpower my heart’s voice and things that my heart whispered all along came true. Some things can’t be calculated by only using my brain. Somethings can’t be predicted without consideration for the soul’s wellbeing. There’s a spiritual side to life that is often dismissed by western ways of thinking. A more balanced approach that has personally brought me much joy and peace in my life.
In the western world as I see it, so much importance is placed on analytics and ‘brain work’ and I fell in the trap of adopting the same mentality. (Possibly because I am an academic by trade!)
Yet now I think differently. I lead with my heart. I lead with love. Every decision I make today I ask, is that a loving thing to do and only then – after that do I apply analytics.
That is what this blog post was about ❤️
Sorry if I inconvenienced you. I guess I just jumped to conclusions. This is a great post. Thanks for sharing